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I’m loving Fridays again.

Three of my favourite shows drop new episodes and it reminds me of being kids and watching shows the night before so you could talk all about it with your friends at school. And after Netflix introduced us to immediately bingeable series, I’m glad that between Disney+, Amazon Prime and Apple TV+ weekly shows are happening again.

I call them drip versus drop shows. And I particularly like drip shows because you can still binge them anyway, but that initial drip period allows those who catch it the first time to at least make it a community experience. I enjoy catching up with a couple of WhatsApp groups every weekend as we text back and forth about the weeks’ episodes.

We’re currently watching The Falcon and the Winter Soldier on Disney+ and Invincible on Amazon Prime and it’s such a delight to explore the themes with these guys. (I’m also really loving catching new episodes of For All Mankind on Apple TV+ but no one else is.)

It’s a little thing, but it’s another reminder how so much of our being human is a shared experience. To be fully human requires us to be with other humans.

What are you sharing with others right now?

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Who you are where you are

I’m two-thirds of the way into #Ship30for30: today was day 19 and I wrote about how the huge effect the environment has on us isn’t necessarily a bad thing, just bad expectations.

Here’s the whole thing:

Other essays this week

You can read the rest on this Twitter thread starting from this point 👇🏾

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13. Cheetahs be like: “I do my best work under pressure.” That high pressure life works for sprints. If you don’t want to flame out, best to deliver in a way you can actually sustain. Be like a responsible parent: regular, not spectacular. #ship30for30

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No parent makes fancy meals every dinner. Sometimes you do takeout. Writing—all creating—is like that. Regular >>>>> irregular spectacular #Ship30for30 atomic essay #13: thanks @yina & @LaurenProctor32 for encouraging me to ship this! https://t.co/rEYv9swrBg

4:32 PM ∙ Apr 13, 2021

If you want to jump to a specific essay, though, I got you:

• Sat: Shipping regularly ≈ responsible parenting

• Sun: Before you can steal like an artist…

• Mon: The most valuable use of power

• Tue: The cycle of creativity isn’t complete…

• Wed: Intellectual constipation and other metaphors

• Thu: You can’t learn from who you disrespect

If anyone particularly resonates with you, I’d love to hear about it!

Admitting wrong (proverb)

Those who will not admit wrong endanger everyone else.

I recently realised you can almost always tell who the villain in a story is going to be: it’s the person who won’t accept responsibility for their actions. They’re the person who gives excuses. The person who, when things go bad, insists it’s someone else’s fault, or that they couldn’t have known how bad things would get, or that you would too if you were in their shoes.

The problem isn’t necessarily that these things aren’t true. It’s that even if they’re true, there’s still a place for acknowledging the contribution we made to things. And it’s a huge red flag when a person can’t bring themselves to do that.

In Falcon and Winter Soldier the main villains are like this: steadfastly refusing responsibility when things go sideways.

People like that aren’t just in fiction, though.

Talk soon,

Doc Ayomide

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